The holidays are coming up, it’s already negative temperatures in Chicago, and all I want to do is stay in my warm, comfortable bed. But the wintertime has some of my favorite date activities, and I can’t wait to share them with you!
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I’ve been married to my husband since September 2012, and for the majority of our relationship, we were long-distance. Dating was pretty difficult when you lived on different continents! But we made most of technology and video chatted using Google. When we did visit each other, we made sure to spend as much time as we could together, going on dates, and getting to know one another.
When we eventually married, real life hit us hard, and it was difficult to find those moments to go out on dates. We’ve already had our fair share of ups and down. And date nights were not even on the radar. But I firmly believe that even as married couples, whether you have kids or not, going on dates is important to reconnect with each other on an emotional, physical, and spiritual level.
First, if you’re not having date nights at least two to three times a month, talk it over with your spouse so that you’re on the same page. It might be that your husband doesn’t see it as a priority. Or maybe you’re on a tight budget. Or if you’re the one resisting, then be open to the conversation.
Here are seven, fun date ideas for you and your spouse to try (and some that I have yet to try!) this winter. It doesn’t always have to be a lavish vacation, or an expensive dinner downtown. Sometimes it’s the “small” dates that mean the most. But the most important point is that you and your spouse are on the same page about wanting to bring intimacy, passion, and excitement into your marriage. Remind yourself why you fell in love with your spouse. See the good in each other again.
Without further ado, here are my seven date ideas!
1. Couples’ Massage
When I booked a massage for my husband (when his back spazzed out, and he just looked like he needed some relaxation), he couldn’t thank me enough, and wished that I had did it with him! Well, I wish I had a nice massage, too! So next time, I plan on tagging along. 🙂 I see coupons for massages all the time on Groupon, and many spas will have a first-time customer deal. Call/Look around and get away from the cold by warming up to a relaxing massage.
2. Dancing Lesson
Heat up the dance floor with your spouse! Whether you’re a dancer or not, it’s good to let loose every once in a while. If you’re the type to be self-conscious, you gotta check that at the door, and just forget about who else is in the room. I personally enjoy swing dancing, because it can be laid-back, but intimate, slow, but also fast at times. Find a local dance studio, and ask about their programs. Some studios might even host open dance nights where they have a live band, teach a basic dance step, and then open up the floor for dancing the night away. Get close and personal with your spouse and learn a few new dance moves.
3. Chocolate Fondue Night
What could be better than hot chocolate in the middle of the cold, dreary winter? Chocolate fondue, of course! If you don’t have your own fondue set, I’d recommend this one. All you need are chocolate, fruits, marshmallows, small cake or brownie bites, and each other! Enjoy your favorite movie together, and cozy up near the fireplace or under a warm blanket.
4. Christmas Lights Tour
I didn’t grow up putting up lights on the outside of our house, but was always jealous of people who did! And then you see some of those videos of houses that take Christmas lights to the extreme level! Here in Chicago, there are historic neighborhoods that take Christmas lights decorating to a whole new level. There are also arboretums, botanic gardens, and forest preserves that go all out. Look around, purchase tickets if it applies, hold hands, and enjoy the Christmas lights together.
5. Photo Session
You might think I’m crazy for suggesting this for the wintertime, but imagine the possibilities! Footprints in the snow. A shot of you and your spouse cuddled in a large, plaid blanket. A heart-shaped snowball. Warm, fuzzy kisses. Trust me, no one else is doing a photo session in the wintertime. So yours will stand out! Bonus, you can probably use those photos as your Christmas photo next year!
6. Sleigh Ride
I enjoy sleigh rides because they’re slow and peaceful. The last time I took one, I was in New York City with friends, and for once, NYC didn’t seem so loud, fast-paced, and rude. It actually felt magical, peaceful, and quiet. I haven’t looked into going on one in Chicago, but I hope to try it this year!
7. Indoor Skydiving
I’ve always wanted to try this! I’m not sure if I’ll look very graceful doing it, but I’m not quite ready to try real skydiving. Plus, it’s the winter. Let’s keep it inside. 🙂
Which of these ideas sounds the most interesting to you? Make it a goal to try at least one or two this winter! I hope you have lots of fun with your spouse on your date(s) this winter!